Monday, February 10, 2014

3 Devious Steps To Attracting And Bonding With Any Guy You Desire

By Alexandra Peterson


For men, attraction and bonding is usually a very straight forward process. Women often complicate this ritual when they have found a guy that they are very interested in or who appears to command a lot of attention from other women. The good news is that attracting that guy that you have your eye on can be simplified and understood very easily. Once you get a grasp of what a men react to when it comes to attraction, getting his attention and bonding with him becomes child's play. It's not important what you look like or what kind of success you have had in the past, once you understand how to turn his head and catch his eye, connecting with the man of your dreams will be very simple.

The differences between men and women are stark. Trying methods or treating a man in the same manner in which you wish to be treated simply isn't going to work. While we all want to be treated well and to have someone at least act as if they're interested in us, you are hoping that you become more than just a friend to him, right? You want him to be attracted to you. You want to be the only woman that he finds attractive. You want a man devoted to you and maybe even to fall in love with you. This is the kind of attraction that you are hoping for.

First, men are visual creatures. They are attracted to things visually at first. It doesn't matter if it's a car, a woman or a coffee maker. If it turns him on visually at first then you have his attention. If you are nervous because you feel that you're not the prettiest or thinnest or most attractive woman in the room, don't worry. All it takes is one thing for him to find you attractive. One physical feature is all that is necessary to get his attention and lead him to you. You don't have to be perfect. For every man that has ever approached a woman at a bar and asked for her number, all it took was one feature to initiate that attraction.

You don't have to be perfect or be the most beautiful girl in the room. All that is required is that you have one feature that is attractive. Perhaps someone has told you that you have pretty eyes or beautiful hair. Maybe you have shapely legs or a pleasant smile. You can accentuate these features and hide any features that you feel are unattractive. For instance, if you have nice hair but you have crooked teeth, braid your hair and avoid giving a toothy smile. If you have nice legs yet you don't like your hair, a dress or skirt that shows off your legs and perhaps a fashionable hat to hide your hair while adding some flair might be in order. Remember, you only have to have one or two attractive features that will get his attention long enough for you to break the ice and make him think about you.

Now the real fun begins. You might be hesitant to flirt but it is a necessary part of the mating ritual. Birds and beasts alike flirt. Women in our society used to be skilled at flirting but it has gone out of style in the past few years. This doesn't meant that flirting doesn't work. Flirting works very well and it is appreciated by men tremendously. Most women feel that it's silly or beneath them. This is just one more reason why flirting will get his attention and set you apart from other women. You might think that you're being transparent or that he will think that you're ridiculous but quite the opposite is true. Men rarely experience being flirted with so overt flirting is actually quite flattering to them.

Have fun and be as flirty as you can possibly be. Try giggling and being coy to start and hit him with the heavy stuff as things progress. If he smiles then you're doing it right. Toss your hair or chew on a straw and make eye contact with him. If he appears to become embarrassed then you can resort to some of the more subtle types of flirting such as letting him catch you looking his way or a shy glance from out of the corner of your eye. If he smiles or appears interested then pour it on and have fun. Touching him when you're talking is great way to flirt. Touching is one of the most overlooked aspects of flirting yet it is very powerful.

Once you have gotten his attention it is time to connect with him and make him feel something special for you and you alone. Stimulating conversation is at the top of list of desire able traits in a mate for all of us but so many women fear that they have to be highly intelligent or that they have to impress a man to make a good impression. The truth is that people love to talk about themselves. By asking good questions and going beyond what any other woman might dare to ask, you can create a bond with him that will disarm him and make him feel like he has known you all his life or that you were meant to be together. It is all a matter of being a little bold as the conversation moves along and keeping the focus on him.

For instance, you might ask him what he does for a living. After he answers, asking him if this is what he envisioned himself doing when he was a kid, is a good question that will lead you into his private life. Dig deep and you will be able to get him to talk about his past, his family and even past relationships. He will bond with you and feel connected with you in a way that can only be surpassed by physical intimacy. Be aware of any hesitation in his voice. Assure him that you find him interesting and that you want to hear more about what he thinks and feels.

You see, attracting the man of your dreams doesn't have to be complicated or full of tricks and schemes. You can attract a guy using his instinctual attraction to things that he sees and then draw him closer using these bonding techniques. Once a man feels that kind of connection, it doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you make or even what skeletons you have hiding in your closet. He will feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you because you make him feel important and he is attracted to you. This is basic male psychology and how you can use attraction to get any man to pay attention to you.




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