How do you know whether or not your marriage is going to survive? This article may help you decide. If I made you pick one thing that would predict whether your marriage will survive or not, what would it be?
Most people will actually say "conflict". If you are always fighting then that can't be good for your marriage, right? Wrong
The truth of the matter is that it is actually the complete opposite. Studies actually have proven that avoiding fights with your spouse is sure fir predictor that your marriage will not survive. It's kind of strange how we try to avoid fighting with our spouse thinking that we are benefiting our marriage. When in fact we are doing the complete opposite.
I really hope that you did not take that the wrong way. I am not saying that you should stop reading this and go hunt down your spouse and start a brawl. Let's face it fighting doesn't make for happy marriage either. But I am saying that if you have a healthy marriage then you probably fight. Having disputes is actually a good sign that you are still in love with one another. To be happily married you need to learn how to fight well.
People who have mastered the proper way to discuss their difference have successful marriages. But this is often not something that come naturally. This is an art that you need to learn. Once you learn how to have healthy disagreements then you will find that when you fight it will actually help your marriage move forward.
Now you can agree or disagree with me here but every successful couple fights because whether we like it or not no to people are perfectly compatible. Keep in mind though, having your difference is very healthy.
You do not have to hunt for the right person in order to succeed in marriage. Instead you need to learn how to have healthy fights with the spouse you already have. Because you are sure to have disputes and differences with anyone you pick. The real question is, can you learn how to discuss or fight through your difference in a healthy manner?
Most people will actually say "conflict". If you are always fighting then that can't be good for your marriage, right? Wrong
The truth of the matter is that it is actually the complete opposite. Studies actually have proven that avoiding fights with your spouse is sure fir predictor that your marriage will not survive. It's kind of strange how we try to avoid fighting with our spouse thinking that we are benefiting our marriage. When in fact we are doing the complete opposite.
I really hope that you did not take that the wrong way. I am not saying that you should stop reading this and go hunt down your spouse and start a brawl. Let's face it fighting doesn't make for happy marriage either. But I am saying that if you have a healthy marriage then you probably fight. Having disputes is actually a good sign that you are still in love with one another. To be happily married you need to learn how to fight well.
People who have mastered the proper way to discuss their difference have successful marriages. But this is often not something that come naturally. This is an art that you need to learn. Once you learn how to have healthy disagreements then you will find that when you fight it will actually help your marriage move forward.
Now you can agree or disagree with me here but every successful couple fights because whether we like it or not no to people are perfectly compatible. Keep in mind though, having your difference is very healthy.
You do not have to hunt for the right person in order to succeed in marriage. Instead you need to learn how to have healthy fights with the spouse you already have. Because you are sure to have disputes and differences with anyone you pick. The real question is, can you learn how to discuss or fight through your difference in a healthy manner?
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